I couldn't think of a fun title tonight which is very rare for me. I guess you could say that I'm in more of a reflective mood than a creative one. What does it mean to be strong? What does it mean to be sexy and confident ... And what happens when you lose that appeal? I can honestly say that there are a lot of different views on what is attractive but a lot of it comes from our instincts. You see, nature is a matter of survival of the fittest. Its hard wired into our brains so much so that it affects a lot of things that we don't even know it has an effect on. Attraction is no exception. Let's think about it... The strong, the healthy... Mentally, physically, and emotionally are the ones that are often what our basic instincts desire. The smart, the agile survive. Sure the criteria get more detailed and advanced when you're looking at the details of attraction. But the overall picture remains that our hard wiring tells us to seek the most healthy, the most strong, the most intelligent because that is what furthers the species. But what happens when you are among the flawed... The sick, the weak mentally, emotionally or physically? Either you adapt or you die so to speak. And I think that is part of what can kill an attraction over time. We start to see the flaws, the imperfections, and the weaknesses. Some of us run, allowing ourselves to run away because the one we chose isn't perfect, isn't what we pictured, isn't what we think we deserve. We delve into shallowness, thinking that to survive we must have the best of the best. Then there are others, who chose the weak, hoping we can strengthen them, change them into something elite, save them. Lastly there are the very few of us who are able to push past, mature, and see that there is no perfect person with no flaws... It doesn't exist. But we can see that there is the healthy, the intelligent, the strong, in every person. My point here is that being mature, being wise means to accept changes, accept that no one is perfect, and attach what your meaning of attraction is to the beauty of the mind, the beauty of the soul, and the beauty of ones uniqueness. Individuality is a great gift, instead of looking for what you think you should be look for the inspiring, the driven, the amazingly magnificent. You won't believe what you're missing... And will regret what you let go in the interest of the meaningless... The shallow... The petty. You will never find unconditionally love and companionship until you have opened your heart, let go of what you think you know... The misconceptions of the perfect mate you once held on to and give of yourself to experiences that will expose you to the greater picture... To the meaning of what it means to be human.*
Originally published on my myspace blog on the given date*
