a general term with such a detailed meaning... *

a general term with such a detailed meaning... *

Current mood:thoughtful

Love.

Its a strange word isn't it? I mean it can mean so many things and be expressed into so many different ways that how can we possibly fit all of that stuff into one catagory such as this? And what makes love last? Some people say that it takes a lot of communication and trust... others say its all about respect. I heard a really good point of view on the situation once that I have never forgotten. A woman married 75 years was asked how they made it through so long. She said that it was simple... they never fell out of love at the same time. Sometimes one person puts in more effort.. sometimes the other does.... but as long as at least someone pushes through the tough times and never gives up.. you are sure to make it. I think its so amazing and so completely rare to find real true love... someone that would never say anything to hurt you or do anything to disrespect you... someone that can love you for you and all of who you are, even if they don't agree with some of the things that make you that way. Someone that can love your body and your mind... with the bumps bruises scars and flaws both physically and emotionally. No one is perfect. But sometimes... once in a great while we have the chance to be something more.... to contribute to the happiness in another person's life... to give ourselves and our knowledge to another in order to enrich their life as well as our own. Great love... great relationships form out of an unspoken law... the same law that creates sparks and fire when two objects are forced together with just the right speed and just the right amout of pressure. But they have to be right. You cant bang a stick against a leaf and expect to get fire. But you have to know what you are made of. You have to know what you want, what you need, and who you are to be able to give someone else the very best and find that second piece to make your flame. You have to be comfortable with the things you cannot change and you have to find someone that is compatible with those things.

Be who you are. Be open, be honest.... because you can only be yourself... everyone else is taken. To be loved for who you are not or try to change and mold yourself into a rock when you're really a stick is going against who you are and will ultimately be the demise of a relationship. So be honest from the beginning. Never do something in the start of a relationship that you don't intend to do forever. Your partner will feel deceived and you will wonder what happened when it doesn't work out. So many times we question why something fell apart when the answer is right in front of us... even when we choose not to see it. Life is too short to waste your time with the wrong person or without the right person simply because its easier to go with the grain. Who cares about what others say... advice is simply advice... you always have the ultimate decision. If you feel that someone is your rock then who cares if anyone else thinks they are.... relationships are a team... 100/100 not just 50/50. To win in this game of life you gotta stick with your team... they will be your everything. Especially if it means someone you love... someone with a future... someone you plan or are hoping to spend the rest of your life with. Don't settle... keep your eyes to the stars... and do what's best for you. Everything else will fall into place...

~ ... kisses like whispers... spark a flame...~ 

Originally published on my myspace blog on the given date*