.~*what love SHOULD be like*~.

.~*what love SHOULD be like*~.

Current mood:optimistic

Love....

...it is so funny how so often it gets stomped on, ruined, taken for granted and treated so unimportantly until you don't have it...

...I have been thinking a lot about it lately... giving my friend's advice on what they should or should not do and each time i am just reminded more and more what real love should be like as i learn from the mistakes of others and look back on the mistakes i myself have made. It remindes me why I have been single for almost three years... of my own choosing. I have been on many dates and random hook ups and sometimes i think why not just commit to someone? And then i remember... love isn't to be taken lightly... out of all things in life, love is one thing you shouldn't settle on. So i decided to gush about what i think real love should be... if for no other reason to remind myself how important standards are and how love really can be...

... love is the butterflies you get even after dating for an eternity... it is that feeling of security, knowing that if you fall there will be that someone to catch you. Love is taking care of eachother when one is sick, playing football in the park, and the ability to do nothing and be perfectly happy just being in eachother's company. Love is not going to bed angry... even if it means hours of going in circles with what looks like no end but loving enough to care. Love is investing time in things that are important to the person you love so you have a better understanding of who they are or if for no other reasonjust to make them smile... it is laying awake in bed together at night just holding hands talking about everything from the cheesy flick you just saw to philosophies on life... it is about having a relationship that is 100/100, not just 50/50. It is about knowing a persons faults and accepting them anyway as a part of that person... it is about supporting personal growth but not trying to force change, we are who we are. It is kisses in the rain AND holding her hair back when she's throwing up from the flu... it is about how cute he looks with his hat on backwards AND being his soft place to fall. Its about connecting with a person deep inside... with morals and values and geniune care, not just how hot their ass looks in those pants... It is being loved for who you are, not how you look or who you could become... but who you are as a person deep down. It is about being a team and always treating the other person's heart with kindness and care like it is a privilage to have it, not a right. It is about laying on his chest just to hear his heart beat and holding her close as to protect her from any pain. It is about respect.. it is about being humble... it is about giving and taking in an equal amount... Love is kindness, loyalty, sharing, understanding, trust, honesty, communication and working as a team... love is being wrong, yelling about it, and then being able to go back and apologize with tears in your eyes and being welcomed with open arms and comforted... not ridiculed and embarassed but understood and accepted... its about not holding grudges and remembering: we're in it together...

... no one should expect or settle for anything less...

... the search continues.. patiently waiting.. must be the puppy chow...

(see Where has Love gone?... another one of my good blogs for the feel good single ones... trust me, you deserve the best... you know who you are... i have faith that you will find "him"... just have faith in yourself... when you do, he will be worth the wait  )

Originally published on my myspace blog on the given date*