Wednesday, March 20, 2013

Personal Ethics and Business*


Originally written for my ethics and entrepreneur class, I decided I thought it was worth sharing :) Enjoy.


          While successful business ownership is built by the hard work of many, it truly begins with the ethics and values of one. So many new business owners overlook the important step of personal development and defining their own code of ethics, and too often it comes back as a lesson that can cost them both personally and professionally. Throughout the first half of this class, there has been a large emphasis on the importance of knowing thyself and being able to observe that which defines one’s decision making. In the internal struggle between right versus wrong, good decisions versus poor ones, those who don’t have a clear representation of what their personal ethical values are will allow circumstance to dictate their actions. This can lead to poor decision making, and often leave one with feeling as though they have compromised themselves in the process.
          Personal ethics are a large part of what ends up becoming business culture. They change and evolve with the person who constructs them, ever molding into something that one would hope would be better than before. With knowledge, responsibility, and experience come a whole new set of standards and values. Maintaining personal ethics is an ongoing process that must be re-evaluated on a regular basis because our lives are ever changing. We are constantly receiving new input, experiences, feelings, thoughts, and reactions. We have relationships that change, grow, or diminish and the associated lessons that come along with each. Throughout this process we call life, our personal ethics are constantly being called into question and challenged by ourselves and others. We can choose to hold fast to these ethics, change them, update them, or let them go as we see fit.
          Many people never stop to question what it is they really believe in. They have a general idea, but don’t have a concrete grasp of what it is that make them who they are. They know that there are certain things that they like or dislike, want or don’t want, but don’t know anything about the blueprint of their character that shapes everything they do. They don’t take the time to understand their successes or failures, and ask themselves what they can do to up their life fulfillment quotient. Often people will invest in new cars, new clothes, or other material items that they think are going to make them successful, but far fewer make the best investment they could ever make to impact their life: themselves. Personal ethics and personal development as a whole have a lot to offer when it comes to getting where one wants to go. While they are not tools that are easy to use because they force one to ask themselves the hard questions that can sometimes be difficult to answer, they are valuable beyond measure. They are the flashlight shined on the monsters under the bed, the guiding light to bring the ship ashore.
The bedrock of both personal and professional ethics must be solid and well defined with ingredients that are engineered for success. What I believe to be the best foundation for any personal code of ethics and a great value for business culture is integrity. The dictionary defines integrity as:
Adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character;
honesty; the state of being whole, entire, or undiminished; a sound, unimpaired, or perfect condition.”
While that definition gives a basis for understanding, integrity is so much more than a few words on a page or a buzzword to be thrown around to feel good about one’s character. Integrity is a lifestyle. It is walking the walk when others want to talk the talk. It is about being dependable, reliable, a person of your word. It is about acting in the same caliber you would in a room full of people, when no one is watching. Integrity is doing the right thing, standing up for what you believe in, and doing so with honor, honesty, and pride. The great philosopher Immanuel Kant said it best when it comes to a guideline for integrity and personal ethics as a whole when he wrote his categorical imperative. His rule? "Act only according to that maxim whereby you can at the same time will that it should become a universal law without contradiction.” If one should act at all times as though what they do will become a universal law and all people from that moment would act as they do in the same situation, they would quickly find that which they find ethically valuable.
          In business, the values of those who create it make a huge impact on the company’s culture. Personal ethics quickly translate to the overall message and face of the business in numerous ways, and become the foundation by which the business will crumble or flourish. While it is impossible to know exactly what to do in each and every ethical decision that will be faced, by establishing a strong framework of ethics a compass is created that will guide one through any tough situation. This is important for the culture of any company, big or small. If the owner and the employees know what the company values, and it is communicated in a way where there is no grey area to the ethical beliefs of the business, employees can be empowered to make sound decisions that will benefit all involved.
 Few business owners realize that not only is their ethical groundwork shaping their business, but their employees as well. A large portion of life is dedicated to work, and the work environment shapes and molds individuals that work within its walls both personally and professionally. Strong company ethics become engrained in the person, and translate into their life outside the business. Their decisions both on the clock and off become a reflection of the kind of ethics they deal with the most. It impacts their confidence, their character, and their own standards by which they hold the other people in their lives. Ethics is like a large boulder hurled into a lake: the splash and subsequent ripples reach far beyond the break in the water’s surface. This is why it is so important to be well established in strong ethical code… it affects everyone that comes in contact with the source.
          There will always be an ethical decision to face, a hardship to confront, or stand to be made. Such decisions will affect one’s character, relationships, business, and all of those who depend on them. While all of the world’s wrongs cannot be undone with a snap of the fingers, change begins in one place that can reverberate to stretches far beyond that which can be imagined. One person acting kindly, ethically, and justly can change the face of business and the lives of all whom that business touches. It can make all the difference the world needs. And it just starts with one.

Monday, November 19, 2012

A box on a high shelf....*

Soul baring moment....
Sometimes it's hard to look at the people of your past... ones that you thought were so amazing, ones that you invested so much in and thought would be in your life until you were old and gray. You thought you'd be friends forever, that nothing could ever tear you apart.... and suddenly, they are so far away. Broken promises, crushed commitments, different priorities... and you realize how far you've grown apart. You no longer care about the same things, and no matter how much you try and invite them to things, take an interest in their life, show them that their friendship is still important to you... they never call, they never text, and seem to not even know that you are still there... caring from afar. Birthdays are forgotten, memories fade, friendship disintegrates.

What to do?

Put them in a shoebox with kindness and care, place them on a shelf in your heart. Always able to look back with fondness and be grateful for the times they were there, and the moments you spent with them in your life. Then take a deep breath, close the closet door, and give the space to those that want to be there. Give the love and attention to those that make an effort to be with you in your life, those that want to share your moments of joy, help you in your moments of need, and be your friend in all definitions of the word. Instead of giving your love and energy to those that are no longer present in your life, break their commitments, and always seem to be somewhere else, give to those who would love to be given that kindness and attention, who would love your friendship and treat it with respect and warmth.

Life is so short. Spend it with those who value your contribution in their life, who will push you forward to greatness, keep their word, and expect the same from you. Those that you can give yourself to, who will value you as you value them. The people in our lives are what make living so special.... let the ones go with love who no longer contribute and keep the ones who make it sparkle. You deserve it. Live with intensity, give your all, and surround yourself with those who do the same. Your life will instantly be enriched, and you will feel free.*


Monday, November 5, 2012

I do not need the government to force me into being kind, just, charitable, and selfless... I can do that all on my own. I need a government to give me protection, justice, freedom, and opportunity. I must admit, I'm so sick of people thinking that the government should take the place of being a good and successful person, and that everyone deserves the best. The best is earned... Worked for... Chased after. And being a good person with morals comes with experience and a drive for self improvement. You cannot give any of that to someone, no matter how many leg ups you give them... They have to want it for themselves. So instead of constantly looking for a way to make everyone equal and make sure everyone has their fair share, let's be a nation that encourages greatness and supports those who strive for advancement... Let's lead by example and offer opportunity to be better instead of asking for things we aren't willing to work for ourselves with an entitled attitude. Take personal responsibility and work for what you want... It is more charitable when you give away what you have worked for not what has been taken from you in the name of "leveling the playing field".

"Ask not what your country can do for you, but what you can do for your country..."*

Friday, September 7, 2012

I count Ewe Tw!ce

He is seriously the sweetest. I go to lunch today after a hard morning when the guinea pig I had taken on as my pig, passed away. There was the sweetest hand written note under the wiper from him telling me how sorry he was and that he loved me. Then, after a hard afternoon, I come out to my car, get in, and there is a watermelon Arizona drink (my favorite!) in my cup holder and a king sized roll of both sweet tarts and starburst on my seat....

When I count my blessings, I count you twice. I love you more than you know, and each day with you is a gift. Thank you for all that you are, and all that you help me to be. 


Saturday, July 21, 2012

Pray for Aurora: Live life appreciatively*

After watching a lot and seeing many posts about the tragic events so close to home, I feel extremely compelled to put this out there. 

It is easy to be concerned in and touched with the tragic events that occur. Tragic events are apart of the human condition. But ask yourself, besides feeling better that you prayed, that you gave your concern and condolences... are you living that which you speak? Are you kind to those around you? Patient and loving? Do you do things for strangers and love your community without needing such a cause? Sure it is easy to talk the talk, but if you truly care about your fellow man and the suffering, live better yourself. Have more patience with your kids, your partner, your family. Do good for those who have nothing to offer you in return. Treasure your life and the lives of others. Make someone else's day for no reason other than you care. So many feel torn up and so concerned, yet go and live their lives in the completely opposite fashion of the words they speak. If you want to do something for those that lost their lives or the families they left behind, give of yourself to make your community better.... to make yourself better. These times of grief are times where we should be reminded to treasure our lives and those we love, squeeze every moment out the special times we share, and remember to always strive to be the kind of person that leaves the world better than when we got there. And eventually, we all will leave this earth. What will you be remembered for? What will be your legacy?

Let us not only think of those lost in terms of this one event out of many that made them who they are, and let us not do them the injustice to be just a name associated with an event that was only a fleck of time in each of their beautiful lives.

Live every second as if it were your last.. because this event has given us just another cold reminder that it could very well be.

Our prayers are with you Aurora.

Wednesday, January 11, 2012

Tough times don't last, tough people do.*


It's hard to talk to yourself out loud. But sometimes I think it's a necessary evil of life. After all, if we didn't talk to ourselves, who would we talk to? Sometimes I feel like the walls are closing in. I wish I knew how to make this better, but unfortunately I do not. I feel like I've lost and gained so much over the last six months of my life that it is almost impossible to rectify, but in the end, am I supposed to rectify it? Sometimes, God has a bigger plan I suppose. Right now, his plan is very unknown to me and while I am not meeting it with resistance, I am definitely apprehensive about what I do not know.

At this rate, I can only imagine where my life is going to be in six months from now. I start school on January 17, which is only about a week away. It'll be an interesting semester and I'm even taking some interesting classes! It's funny to see how our lives change, our priorities grow, and what we lose in the process. I feel as though I'm coming up on a new frontier in my life and I am slightly afraid that I will be left not knowing who I am. I worked so hard to be where I am at and part of me feels that this positive change could really impact my life. However, positivity is definitely a relative term. Once the other shoe drops, will I really believe that it's a positive change? What job will I have? Where will I be in school? Will I still want to do all of the things I had planned for my life? Right now, it's just too hard to tell.


In Beachbody, I can definitely say that I'm starting to feel accomplished. However, that seems to be the only area where I feel that way. Change is a hard thing to swallow. Sometimes it makes you wonder where you're going to end up, who's going to be with you, and what you're going to do to get to the next place after that. I must admit I'm feeling kind of lonely. All of my RadioShack manager friends are obviously still at RadioShack, with the exception of a few, and we all know that at RadioShack, you don't get much time to spend with those you care about. Part of me feels like I should be happy about this. After all, I get plenty of time to do the things that I've been wanting to do for months that I could never do at RadioShack. I get to work out when I want to, sleep late, do lots of things for my friends and family, and get to spend plenty of time with my pets. But somehow, there isn't the same sense of purpose that there was before and definitely not the same amount of pride in my accomplishments. Beachbody definitely consumes most of my day because it is where I feel my life is the most meaningful, but I post so much that I think I'm annoying the crap out of all of my friends! LOL!


Feeling lost is not something that I am used to. I'm used to having plenty of control and direction in my life, and right now there seems to be very little. I have been finding lots of little things to take up my time, and take up my time it does. I do laundry, I do my Turbo Fire, I clean, I take care of pets, I help family and friends, and do lots of little miscellaneous things that I've been waiting to do for so long. But when I look back and think of all the things that it feels has changed, I don't even recognize my own life any more. It sounds funny to say, but this series of unfortunate events has actually made me happier than I have been in a long time. Boy, don't I feel guilty for saying that! How could I be happy? Unemployment got denied, I lost my job, my poor rabbit of 14 years is on his last leg, and my very best friend who is trying to support me is absolutely out of his mind with stress. Beachbody has quenched my need for achievement and for purpose, and I spend a lot of my time supporting people that I don't know but care so much about. The time just flies by and I wish that I could do this forever. Of course, I can do this forever, I just need to find something to pay the bills. I don't want us to drown in debt and poor Travis is doing everything he can to make sure that everything is taken care of. I think it puts a hamper on our relationship, our lifestyle, and most of all his happiness.

Most of all, I can definitely say that I am confused. How can you not know who you are or what is going to happen to your life and still be happy? Well, I guess I really do know the answer to that. It is about choosing to be happy. It is about choosing to live in the moment, find the beautiful things around you, and be thankful for the little things that are going your way. The truth of the matter is, life is hard. Struggles never get any easier, and obstacles are always going to be in your path. But if you don't stop along the trail to look at the flowers, it's going to pass you by and you'll never get that time back. Right now, I try and take life one day at a time and find all of the beautiful things that I can. Part of me feels like I'm constantly looking out for what's going to happen, what that thing is going to come next, or what's going to railroad my life plans. Right now, so many people are getting married, having babies, getting promoted at their jobs, and just in general finding their groove in life. There are lots of new houses, new last names, new careers, and new experiences that I just seem to be missing out on. Nevertheless, I am happy. I have a gorgeous car, simply amazing mentors, a loving family, a roof over my head, food in my mouth, bills being paid, and the greatest man I could ever ask for in my life. It is so weird to feel this way when I feel that I should be feeling as though I'm missing out. And for just as many babies and marriages, there are equally as many relationship problems, divorce, heartbreak, tragedy, hunger, death, and bad things just happening all over the place in general. Maybe it's okay to not have it all figured out of 25.

As Alice in Wonderland's taught us, you won't know which path to take unless you know where you want to go. While I was still at RadioShack, I used to tell God that all I wanted was time with my family, to become healthy, to take care myself, and to be able to enjoy my life. While the situation isn't obviously the most ideal, in a sense he gave me exactly that. So what am I going to do with it? I am going to build my business through Beachbody and touch the lives of so many that are just like me. I am going to find a job that supports me and not only enriches my life, but offers me financial security. I am going to keep working on my health, both bodily and mental through workouts and personal development at every opportunity. I am going to do everything I can to make my family, friends, and pets healthy, happy, and well taken care of. I am going to contribute to my community, continue to do stellar in school, and make the very most of every moment I have left in this life.

...must be the puppy chow...

Thursday, October 13, 2011

Hiding in plain sight....*

Well.... life has been turned on my head once again. And I'm actually quite happy about it :)

I have been working for RS for three years. And for that three years, my job has consumed the majority of my life. I have been working 50+ hour work weeks at a mandatory six days per week. I have missed birthdays, holidays, parties, events, births of friends' children, and everything in between. I have put up hundreds of thousands of price tags, written hundreds of schedules, done more planograms than I can count, hired, fired, laughed, cried, and worked myself into oblivion. I have developed relationships that will see me long into the future, and created problems in my relationships at home. RS has been my life for the past three years.

But no more.

Day before yesterday, I was fired. Yep. Fired. Me. Can you believe it? And yet, it was the best thing that could have happened to me at the best possible time. I got fired for a reason that was not within my control but I will happily accept the outcome. It all fell into place at the best possible moment, which makes me completely convinced that it was what was supposed to happen. Here's why:

1) My wonderful, beautiful grandparents in Texas heard about all that I was accomplishing and my fantastic 4.0 from last semester and, as a treat, sent me a little extra money in the bank. Wonderful people those grandparents of mine :).

2) I just purchased my gorgeous Cruze, and have enough money in the bank to cover the payments for a little while until I find my newest adventure in the work world.

3) Midterms for school are over the next couple of weeks which just so happened to be the time @ RS when we were scheduled to have two manager meetings in Greenwood Village, a Verizon training, four store resets from 9pm - 1am AT LEAST, on top of pricing changes, store hour changes, and all of this stuff going on at school.

4) I have an amazing significant other who supports me and wants me to be happy in a job that pays me well. So, probably for most of the remainder of this semester ( a couple of months ) I am going to be house cleaner, pet player wither, volunteer work doing, school ass busting, Turbo Fire Bombshell looking out for my family, friends, and myself... of which all have been neglected deeply over the past three years.

So, plan of action from here? Turbo Fire my butt off and ROCK our Bombshell challenge, get together a stellar resume (which my leadership professor has already gladly agreed to help me with), do some volunteer work for some local shelters as I have wanted to do for SO long, and kick butt at school while blitzing every vet office in the Denver Metro Area looking for any possible shoe in so I can have a job that takes care of me and that will truly value all my hard work and determination. I'm going to enjoy some of the Halloween festivities I otherwise would have missed (or been unable to fully enjoy due to work scheduling or homework), spend time with my family, and pull off another 4.0 semester.

All of it sounds great on paper... and I do believe it is the best thing for me. But I must admit.... only a couple of days in and I'm already itching for things to do. Sure, i have plenty to catch up on in my life that I have missed, and money isn't everything, but a lot of who I am is tied up in my work. I have a very huge drive when it comes to tasks and accomplishments... and being fired (backslash separated from my family of three years) was a huge hit to my confidence. Even if it wasn't something I could have done anything about, I still feel like a failure. Which I suppose rolls us right in to the next topic:

Hiding in plain sight.

Let me explain.

So much has happened to me in my life time, as does all of us. We experience failure, rejection, sadness, and more than our fair share of embarassment. There is also a deeper side of things. A darker side. A side that makes us want to protect ourselves from the world. I have especially embraced this side of myself over the years and really "fed the monster" so to speak. I gained a bunch of weight, stopped taking care of myself, and found every reason not to. I'm too busy, I work too hard, I don't have enough time.... all of the typical reasons we find to neglect ourselves and the things that are best for us. Okay okay, I know what you are thinking... but I promise I'm getting to the point. I have been around a lot of overweight people... embraced them, loved them, and thought nothing of the exterior because after all, "it is what's on the inside that counts." Going through the challenge that I have been going through (and the past year or so I have had weight loss at the forefront of my mind) I have learned something very valuable about myself and in turn, others.

We eat to protect ourselves. Especially those who have been significantly overweight for a long period of time. We do it for comfort as we don't want to bother anyone else with our problems. We do it to shelter ourselves from rejection because we have the weight to blame it on. "Well, if I was thinner...." is our favorite excuse for why things aren't happening for us. Food becomes our way to build a very literal wall that protects us from hurt, pain, rejection, attention, people. Often it happens out of shame, pain, loneliness.... we want to disappear but, life waits for no one. We can't just stop going to work, school, or interacting with people, so we hide. We hide in plain sight. We cover ourselves with a thick layer of camofloge so that we don't have to face the outside world, risking the same kind of intense hurt or rejection and having to feel it all over.

Why do I tie these two together?

Because if I was the old me, I would be eating myself into an oblivion right now. But I'm not. I have not strayed from my program, despite the intense feelings of diminished value (because I am not an active member of the workforce), rejection (losing my job of three years for a reason I couldn't control), and fear (what is going to happen now?).

I am so proud of where I have come from. Mostly, I am proud that for the first time in my life, I have developed healthy skills to cope with my anxiety. I am a worrier by nature, to the point that the old me would be paralyzed with fear. Fear of making the wrong choice, fear of failure, fear of success, fear of just being alive. I would eat to hide from the attention from the opposite sex, but yet I would blame any rejection on the weight. I didn't want people to pay attention to me because then I would have to deal with expectations (what if I fail?), disappointment, and a whole slew of negativity I would assign to interaction. It was just too much, and I didn't have the energy to deal with it. So I hid. I hid under my fat, I hid under my busy schedule... and now.... as the fat is going away and the busy schedule is suddenly wide open...

... I have to be present. Present in the moment with my feelings, with the people around me, with the emotional needs of others....

And I while I still feel the fear... I am handling it. Better than handling it. Successfully managing it and embracing this change as a positive occurence in my life.

It is moments like these that you can sit back and say.... I have really made a difference in my own life over this past year.... and the implications of that are amazing. It is like a light switched has flipped.... one risk leads to another to another... accomplishing more and more and all of the sudden I find myself asking....

What can't I do? And in the same breath, I already have my answer.

NOTHING.

Feel the fear.... and do it anyway. You can change your life if you do it just one thing at a time. Take one risk, one step, one leap of faith. Because after all...

The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. And before you know it, you are everything you ever dreamed of being. The universe moves all the right people in, all the wrong people out, and helps the man (or woman ;) who helps himself....

And it all starts with you.



...must be the puppy chow....